Saturday, February 14, 2009

14th Day of Love

Glen and Laurel, BYU Campus, 1994

I love Glen because he has always been willing to meet me in the middle. In a 34 year marriage, there have been many opportunities for compromise. It's not always easy to negotiate and to be respectful enough to listen and ponder one another's point of view, but it is necessary. It also involves trust; trust that you will not be belittled for your feelings or ideas.

In the photo we are back on the campus where we first met in 1974. We are visiting our oldest son, now a freshman at BYU and who has already met his future mate, Susan. As I have posted my 14 Days of Love, it has reminded me that we are all a part of the circle of love and the flow of life. Generations come and go but the most important thing is to LOVE one another.

Happy Valentine's Day!

Friday, February 13, 2009

13th Day of Love

I love Glen because he is a very generous person. He is generous with his time, his talents, his resources, and his love. In our early marriage I often felt like he was "generous to a fault." I've changed my mind on this one as well. It really is better to be optimistic, friendly and generous.

The photo is of something red that Glen gave me this week for Valentine's Day. It is a gel mat to stand on during long stints in the kitchen. I loved it this morning as I made rolls for a missionary zone conference. These five rolls are the ones I saved for Glen. I felt slightly guilty when an elder sought me out and asked if there were any more rolls, but only slightly. I thought my generous man deserved some, too.

This is the something red that I got Glen for Valentine's Day. I went to his section of the bookstore to find this book. The red cover was important, but I also liked the title.

Yes, the flap is covering up the "Oriental Trader" logo on this box which arrived this week. Glen was asked to host the HP Valentine Social in his beautiful backyard and of course, generously said, "Yes." It looks like he has also decided to decorate.

I really do appreciate all the generous things that he does. Most of them are in a quiet, anonymous manner. I'll keep it that way.

Thursday, February 12, 2009

12th Day of Love

I love Glen because he has never met a stranger. I did not love this quality at first. I felt embarrassed when he spoke to the waiter, sales clerk, teller, etc., as if they were his long lost friends. Now it doesn't bother me a bit. In fact, I try to emulate his ease with others, although I'm never quite so at ease as he.


You may be wondering why I am posting this picture of our house soon after we purchased it in 1991. I wanted you to see a before and after. It will soon all tie together. Glen had a vision for his home, much like he has a vision for most things he attempts. Those piles of dirt came from the backyard when the pool was dug.


This is our home today. He spent time mowing his grass and watering the many colorful plants before he left for work this morning. He looks forward to these tasks because he talks to EVERY early morning walker. Sometimes he talks them into following him into the backyard.

This is how it looked in 1991 when we first moved in. That's indoor/outdoor carpeting covering the dirt, not really share-worthy. Notice how the palm trees are only as tall as the fence.

This is how it looks today. He loves sharing our garden. Recently he noticed that two women, apparently a daughter and her elderly mother, were stopping to look as they passed by each morning. He invited them into his backyard. He sat with them at the table and had a good long conversation. When they left, he told them they were welcome to rest on the benches out front anytime.

There you have it. My short tale of the extrovert. And you will be pleased to know that the introvert has become more extro.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

11th Day of Love

I love Glen because he has become a caring, loving, and fun grandpa. He is delighted to once again have unconditional love from the little people in his life. His grandchildren are his joy.

There he is lining up his favorite people by age so that they can take a whack at the pinata on his last birthday. He is still making things fun.

Once again there are little ones willing to help him blow out his birthday candles.

He is a very blest man and I am so fortunate to be enjoying the blessings with him.

Dearest Janae, Thank you for the use of your beautiful pictures!

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

10th Day of Love

I love Glen because he has been such a "fun" parent. I've often thought how it would have been for my children to not have had their father in their life - boring and quiet. Glen has been the recreation director in our marriage and family (just like his mother was for her family.) Glen makes the good times roll!

If I had been present for this rolling good time it would NOT HAVE HAPPENED! I birthed these five beautiful children and their safety has always been my up most priority. Did they love riding on top of the car? Yes indeed, and they sometimes still talk of it.


Glen is trying to blow up the rubber raft which he brought to fathers/sons outing on top of his little blue Volkswagen. The "bug" was also packed with a tent, all camping gear, folding chairs, and three boys. It was a traveling circus and they had a very good time, especially enjoying the wide eyes as they rolled into camp.

There would have been no underwater pictures without Glen in their life. They would never have known how they looked in a watery world.

It was a family tradition for Glen to pack up the kids early on a Saturday morning in late December after a snowstorm up north. They would load the pickup with snow and head home to engage in a traveling snowball fight. Friends and neighbors learned that it was dangerous to open their door on a December Saturday.

Glen's philosophy has always been "the more the merrier." This van is packed with the family plus some Ostler cousins. I think that's Brittany standing outside looking in. We were on our way to Disneyland, the happiest place on earth.

Glen always thought that a family activity was the best kind of activity. This may have been the only time all the bikes had tires with air. It was a very delightful evening.

Glen has also provided the "fun" for many ward activities. He and the kids were always filling an ice chest full of water balloons for the water balloon launcher. He was also the kind of dad who took kids and their friends teepeeing. When visiting Utah in July, a trip to Wyoming for fireworks was usually a given. Most of my children's fondest memories were orchestrated by their father. That's my Glen!

Please comment if you want to add any "fun" memories of your own.

Monday, February 9, 2009

9th Day of Love

I love Glen because he LOVES, LOVES, LOVES his children. They have been his main delight - might we even say his hobby. He loves them:

Even when he has to share his snow cone.

Especially when they "heart" him.

Even when they blow out his birthday candles.


Even though coaching t-ball is hot in Arizona.

Even when they teepee his bed.
(Especially when they teepee his bed.
He's just sorry he missed the actual activity.)

Even when the field trip chaperone is expected to get wet, too.


Even when the baby in the stroller becomes taller than he is
(all his sons are taller, this one is just much taller.)

Even when he drives an older station wagon instead of a flashy sports car.

But mostly because they jump for joy because he's right in the middle of the fun.

Glen always made a point of taking a child with him on errands whenever possible. (I looked forward to him being at home so that I didn't have to take anyone with me!) He knew that one on one attention was a great way to make a child feel special.

Sunday, February 8, 2009

8th Day of Love

On Grandma Baker's Love seat, early 1975

I love Glen because he does little, tender things that show me that he really cares. I missed one of my weekly tender moments today. We took separate cars to church because I had to do stake business right after our meetings. I was also a bit slower getting ready, so by the time I arrived, Janae and Raymond had surprised us with a visit to our ward and were already seated on our bench. (It's the third from the front on the right side and really, it's pretty much ours!) This meant that I was seated on the aisle, not next to Glen. After the sacrament, he always reaches over and takes my hand. Today I missed that warm gentle squeeze that lets me know he cares.